According to Wikipedia, a Diva is:
1 - ... a woman of outstanding talent ...
2 - ... a Goddess ...
3 - a being who is more powerful, longer-lived, and lives a more contented life than the average human being
As a Reiki healer, I believe that all types of DISease in our lives are caused by blocked energy caused by our own negative thoughts, beliefs and emotions. If left unchecked, this blocked energy can cause every physical and mental condition we may suffer from - from depression to cancer. Through using techniques such as Reiki healing, color therapy, positive affirmations, EFT tapping and meditation - just to name a few, I believe that all DISease may be banished from our lives, allowing us to become the beautiful, powerful, divine beings we truly are. I believe the first step in this process is learning to love and cherish ourselves for who and what we are. After all, as human beings, we do not take great care of things we hate, including our bodies.
It is this process of learning self-love and self-care, of embracing My Inner Diva, that led me to the practice and principles of Health at Every Size.
The Five Principles of HAES℠:
1. Accepting and respecting the diversity of all body shapes and sizes.
This means recognizing that no one body type is better, healthier or more attractive than another. It means acknowledging that we all come in different bodies. We are different heights. We have different hair color, eye color and skin tone. We recognise that these things were decided by genetics and cannot be changed without going to very extreme measures. We do not say that one eye color is better or healthier than another, nor would we ever say that one skin color is better or healthier than another. But, every day, we look at ourselves and others and pass judgement based on body size. We, as a society, assume that thin people are fit, healthy, energetic, smart and hard-working while we assume that larger people are unfit, unhealthy, lazy and less intelligent. All of these assumptions are based ONLY on body size, which is every bit as damaging as making those same assumptions based on skin color - or height or eye color or any other physical trait alone.

2. Recognizing that health and well-being are multi-dimensional and that they include physical, social, spiritual, occupational, emotional and intellectual aspects.
For decades, the diet industry, fashion magazines, television and the media, and society at large, have been telling us that if we would only lose weight that would solve all of our problems. We would instantly become more attractive, more loved, more outgoing, more successful ... Our marriages or dating lives would get better. We would get more promotions or make more money at work. We would be instantly loved and accepted by others. But this is a lie. Simply changing your weight won't save your marriage or make your boss appreciate you more. And we are all so much more than a number on a bathroom scale. We have many other needs that we postpone and leave unmet, waiting for the magic day when the scale displays the number we've been waiting for. THEN we can start to live. THEN we can start caring for ourselves. But what if that number never comes? Or, what if you reach that number and like 98% of people who lose weight, you end up gainging all the weight back - and then some - in a year or so? What then? Do you stop caring for yourself because you are no longer at your "goal" weight? Do you never start because you never make it to a low enough weight to feel satisfied? Recognize that the time to start caring for yourself and meeting ALL of your needs is NOW!

3. Promoting all aspects of health and well-being for people of all sizes.
The "War on Obesity" gets a lot of attention in this country. You can't watch a news related show without viewing at least one report on some new health risk that is now associated with being overweight or a segment on the newest diet trend sweeping the country. As a whole, we are obsessed with weight and with saving the fat people from themselves. But, there's a whole other segment of society that we ignore completely when it comes to health and fitness. THIN PEOPLE! Have you ever seen a report specifically advising thin people to exercise more? If you have, I bet it's only been once or twice in your lifetime! The assumption that all thin people are fit and healthy is completely false. How many thin people have you known in your life who don't exercise and live on fast food because they're thin and don't need to worry about things like high blood pressure and diabetes? After all, if you were to believe the news media, those are things that only happen to fat people. Naturally thin people have nothing to worry about. But, if you think about it for a few seconds, you realize that this is completely false. The same things that make heavier people unhealthy are the same things that make thin people unhealthy - living a sedentary lifestyle and eating unhealthy foods. Just off the top of my head I can think of at least four people I've known most of my adult life who are thin and very unhealthy. And, I have to think that maybe, just maybe, if we weren't such a size-obsessed culture, these dear friends of mine who are on the verge of developing classic "weight related" illnesses (if they're not struggling with them already) would have gotten the message that trying to live healthfully isn't just for fat people.

4. Promoting eating in a manner which balances individual nutritional needs, hunger, satiety, appetite and pleasure.
If you are a lifetime dieter, like I am, the whole idea of factoring in appetite and pleasure to eating may seem downright blasphemous. After all, we've been trained from an early age that if we want to be thin and pretty, we need to survive on carrot sticks, celery and salad with no dressing. Instead of indulging in a fabulous dessert, we are to white-knuckle it through yet another day of calorie-restricted eating. We must stick to our rigid diet plan even when our stomach is growling and our blood sugar is crashing. But, in the end, our bodies always win. We struggle along, trying to be "good" on our diet so that we can lose the weight, only to end up binging on cookies and ice cream in the middle of the night because we couldn't stand being hungry for one more second. Or we go to the birthday party and stare longingly at the cake that everyone else will get to eat while we try to make due with the vegetable tray and end up eating three bags of chips once we get home. Wouldn't it make more sense to follow a more balanced eating plan that factors in ALL of your food needs - including appetite and pleasure? I know which way I'd rather live ...

5. Promoting individually appropriate, enjoyable, life-enhancing physical activity, rather than exercise that is focused on the goal of weight loss.
I can't tell you how much I hate to exercise. Really, I truly, truly loathe it. This is because it has been forced on me my entire life, against my will, as a means of weight loss and humiliation. Gym teachers would make fun of my thunder thighs in grade school - and in Junior High (the last time I took a "conventional" gym class) they graduated to calling me a fat cow in front of the whole class. My parents purchased treadmills, Nordic Tracks and other fitness equipment and would extole the virtues of using these machines, though none of us ever used them more than once or twice before they became laundry racks and dust catchers because they either became incredibly boring after the novelty wore off or caused one of us to become injured. My experiences with competitive sports were even worse. To this day, I have no interest in watching sports - let alone participating. Who needs that kind of pressure and humiliation? No Thank You. There have only been a few times in my life when I've been able to engage in a physical activity and enjoy it - and I was told by yet another set of fat-hating gym teachers that those activities weren't REAL exercise, so they didn't count (at the time they were pushing this "exercise at home" program). (
For the complete rundown of Bullying Teachers in my life, check out THIS BLOG POST.) And, looking back on all those experiences, I have to wonder how different my relationship with exercise would be today if the focus had been on moving my body, enjoying the activity and becoming more fit and healthy for participating. Maybe it wouldn't be such a struggle today.

With all of this in mind, I am turning over a new leaf. I have decided to end the diet/binge/shame/diet cycle in my life. Instead, I am focusing on intuitive eating, self-love and self-care. In the coming months and (hopefully!) years, I plan to share my journey with you by posting blogs, thoughts, "Diet Book Deconstructions" where I review various diet books from a No Diet standpoint and my own personal experiences. It's certainly not the "norm" for someone who has just enrolled in "nutrition school," but I feel it is a valid point of view and one that desperately needs to be heard. I hope you enjoy exploring this new perspective with me.